I have to put up a disclaimer. John Doe is not my real name (obviously). There are a few reasons why I've chosen to stay anonymous. First, there's still a sense of shame that surrounds this whole thing. I did want to keep my identity hidden (for now). Also, it might be very hard for a lot of people to understand, but I come from a background where families keep things to themselves, or else they face criticism from others. As much as I try to resist that (with that "no one's gonna keep me down" attitude), I can't do that to my parents or my siblings. I just won't explain...because I always end up over-explaining...and because I end up arguing with people.